Really, I catch myself wondering how my actions and words will come across through the eyes of OTHERS. As if it matters? I mean, I can easily say that I don't want it to affect me, but I get to really look at it and see that it does sway my choices/decisions sometimes, and that's a big NO NO.
If you too also care about what others will think about your actions, words, the way you show up in the world, know you are NOT alone. AND there are things you can do and steps you can take so that instead of worrying about what others are thinking about you, you can begin to start thinking the WORLD of yourself. Then others' opinions wouldn't even matter.
REFRAME IT!